Relationship and marriage counselling.
Nurturing Love, Restoring Connections
As a marriage guidance counsellor & relationship therapist of many years, I will support you in challenging those aspects of your relationship that have brought you here.
Couples therapy is challenging work, but emotionally and financially cheaper than divorce. It's advisable to explore all avenues as the pain and anguish, plus the cost to your and your children's mental health of a relationship ending, can be immeasurable—additionally, the financial impact of separation, home building or rehoming.
Couples counselling offers new skills that, over time, will become the building blocks for transforming your relationship.
Communication, both verbal and through the body (kissing, touch, sensual and sexual intimacy), is at the forefront when relationships are breaking down.
Other acts of aggression when the relationship is floundering include focusing on playing the 'blame game' and viewing the 'other' as the enemy. The 'silent' treatment, forced separation, berating, and sulkiness can lead us to a place of reaction, rage, and counter-behaviours that constantly damage one's self-worth.
In some relational dynamics, there is a lack of anger as couples regress into brother-sister or best-friend relational types. These types of dynamics come with ambiguity and avoidance, and slowly strangle any hope of a sexually fulfilling and enjoyable life together, whilst resentments bubble away in the background.
Many couples have felt the devastation of infidelity. Infidelity raises issues of trust, shame, and guilt and can leave one or both parties bereft, angry, and feeling disgusted yet powerless to make choices. Therapy is a choice.
If your relationship exhibits any of these relational dynamics, I suggest that you begin therapy as soon as possible; otherwise, years will pass, and you will slowly lose any hope you once had of a lifelong, fulfilling relationship.
During the counselling sessions, we will look at how you connect with your partner. We collaborate on exercises and try to unearth the deeper meanings in the to and fro of day-to-day interactions, and sift through whether past relationships and family-of-origin shadows have been affecting your current behaviours towards each other.
A healthy home, sex life, and creative play are dependent on your willingness to make changes by invoking the four Cs of compassion, challenge, compromise, and communication.
It is your choice...
Contact me: Email here or call/text 07478- 541- 231
Couples seek support for varied reasons, including:
- Low sexual desire
- Conflict resolution
- Sex addiction (Out of control sexual behaviour)
- Lack of intimacy
- power imbalance
- Jealousy
- Retroactive Jealousy
- Infidelity
- Family planning
- Sexual abuse
- Sexual violence
- Emotional and physical abuse
- Passive aggression
- Boundary and consent violations
- Relationship navigation into Swinging, polyamory and opening the relationship to others.
- Childcare
- Psychosexual medical issues IE erectile problematic behaviours, vaginismus, rapid or retarded ejaculation, retarded orgasm
- Sexual self-esteem
- Pre-cohabiting guidance
- Relationship contracting
- Sex and sensuality for life coaching
and many others
Sessions can be held weekly or fortnightly, depending on your needs and finances. However, weekly sessions are therapeutically more beneficial, as the relationship remains in focus. Additionally, if you cancel a session, fortnightly clients will not be seen for a month.
There will be exercises and home tasks to help you rediscover yourself and each other. I constantly remind clients of their boundaries and consent levels within a framework of 'safety first' to support you in your process while navigating this journey with care and compassion.
In some cases, couples attend counselling sessions seeking a structured ending to their relationship. They wish to navigate the transition into solo and separate lifestyles and to develop a supportive co-parenting relationship with structured boundaries if children are involved. This is all possible through communication and mediation.
Contact me: Email here or call/text 07478- 541- 231
Relationship sex coaching
All relationships get stale and dull, right? They can indeed, but with a bit of spring cleaning, you can develop into a new, pleasure-filled partnership that meets both your needs.
Sensual and sexual coaching is focused primarily on techniques to enhance your bodily and emotional responses to each other. The focus may be around ejaculation control or vaginal numbness or raising issues where you wish to expand or introduce new sensual or sexual games with your partner.
Throughout the sessions, we will focus on the likes and dislikes that affect your senses and tease out any others that may be linked. Together, we will develop a better understanding of yourself and each other to enhance your desires and future relationships.
This is a brief 6-session model that allows for a spring clean and tune-up for you and your relationship.
