Relationship and marriage counselling
Nurturing Love, Restoring Connections
As a marriage guidance counsellor & relationship therapist of many years, I will support you in challenging those aspects of your relationship that have brought you here.
Couples therapy is challenging work but emotionally and financially cheaper than divorce. It's advisable to explore all avenues as the pain and anguish plus the cost to your and your children's mental health of a relationship ending can be immeasurable. Plus the financial hit of separation and home building/rehoming.
Couples counselling offers new skills which, over time, will become the building blocks for the transformation of your relationship.
Communication, both verbal and through the body (kissing, touch, sensual and sexual intimacy) are at the forefront when relationships are breaking down.
Other acts of aggression when the relationship is floundering is to focus on playing the 'blame game' and viewing the 'other' as the enemy. The 'silent' treatment, forced separation, berating and sulkiness can take us to a place of reaction, rage and counter-behaviours that constantly damage one's self-worth.
In some relational dynamics, there is a lack of anger as couples regress into brother and sister or best friend relational types. These types of dynamics come with ambiguity and avoidance and slowly strangle any hope of a sexually fulfilling and enjoyable life together whilst resentments bubble away in the background.
Many couples have felt the devastation of infidelity. Infidelity raises issues of trust, shame, and guilt and can leave one or both parties bereft, angry, and feeling disgusted yet powerless to make choices, therapy is a choice.
If your relationship identifies with any of these relational dynamics I would suggest that you begin therapy as soon as possible, otherwise, years will pass and you will slowly give up any hope that you once had of a life-long fulfilling relationship.
During the counselling sessions, we will look at how you connect with your partner. We collaborate on exercises and try to unearth the deeper meanings in the to and fro of day-to-day interactions and sift through whether past relationships and family of origin shadows have been affecting your current behaviours towards each other.
A healthy home/sex/ creative play life is dependent on your willingness to make changes through invoking the four C'S of compassion, challenge, compromise and communication.
It is your choice...
Contact me: Email here or call/text 07478- 541- 231
Couples seek support for varied reasons including:
- Low sexual desire
- Conflict resolution
- Sex addiction (Out of control sexual behaviour)
- Lack of intimacy
- power imbalance
- Jealousy
- Retroactive Jealousy
- Infidelity
- Family planning
- Sexual abuse
- Sexual violence
- Emotional and physical abuse
- Passive aggression
- Boundary and consent violations
- Relationship navigation into Swinging, polyamory and opening the relationship to others.
- Childcare
- Psychosexual medical issues IE erectile problematic behaviours, vaginismus, rapid or retarded ejaculation, retarded orgasm
- Sexual self-esteem
- Pre-cohabiting guidance
- Relationship contracting
- Sex and sensuality for life-coaching
and many others
Sessions can be weekly or fortnightly depending on your needs and finances but weekly is therapeutically more beneficial as the relationship stays in focus. Also if you cancel a session then fortnightly clients will not be seen for a month!
There will be exercises and home tasks to help you to rediscover yourself and each other. I constantly remind clients of their boundaries and consent levels within a frame of 'safety first' to hold you in your process whilst navigating this journey with care and compassion.
In some cases, couples attend counselling sessions seeking a structured ending to their relationship. They wish to navigate the transition into solo and separate lifestyles and to develop a supportive co-parenting relationship with structured boundaries if children are involved. This is all possible through communication and mediation.
Contact me: Email here or call/text 07478- 541- 231
Relationship sex coaching
All relationships get staid and dull, right? They can indeed, but with a little bit of a spring clean you can develop into a new pleasure-filled partnership that meets both your needs.
Sensual and sexual coaching is focused primarily on techniques to enhance your bodily and emotional responses to each other. The focus may be around ejaculation control or vaginal numbness or raising issues where you wish to expand or introduce new sensual or sexual games with your partner.
Over the course of the sessions, we will focus on the likes and dislikes that affect your senses and tease out any others that may be linked. Together we will develop a better understanding of yourself and each other with the aim of enhancing your desires and future relationship.
This is a brief 6-session model that allows for a spring clean and tune-up for you and your relationship.
