Psychosexual (Sex) Therapy
Sex and sensuality are nature's biological gifts that keep giving. Self-pleasuring, masturbation and developing our own sexual practice are the most nurturing and nourishing connections that we can have with ourselves and others. A 'good' sexual health practice has been scientifically proven to aid our biological and emotional well-being and increase our life expectancy, cardiovascular health and outlook on life.
Unfortunately, our sexual and sensual energy can be diverted or shut down by various abuses, judgements, shaming or physical and emotional health challenges.
My work focuses on the homeo-dynamic model of Psychosexual therapy that challenges the symptoms of the body, i.e., sexual shutdown, erectile or vaginal behaviours, anxiety over performance, and a multitude of emotional and mind-triggering relational concerns that take us away from feeling wholesome and complete.
Brain (memories, past experiences, arousal response, passion and desire),
Mind (thinking and beliefs around sex, relationships, and themselves),
Body (organic / non-organic reasons, bodily response),
Emotions (feelings & intuition).
Would you like to develop sexual and sensual practices that bring life-affirming fulfilment?
Do you crave intimacy and wish to deepen the connection to yourself and others?
Do you wish to explore and challenge relational power and paradigms that have moulded you to accept far less than you have desired?
And how are your erotic and sensual desires? Have your desires been overshadowed by education, the church, family, and society?
The therapeutic pathway will initially focus on discussions regarding consent and boundaries. This discussion supports you to give yourself and me permission to explore verbally and adventure into what sexual identity, sensual intimacy, & emotional liberation may mean for you, and to dive into where the judgmental and self-shaming language may have originated.
I have worked with many clients who have presented with a lack of desire and challenges with sexual identity or orgasm concerns. Others have worked through sexual trauma and familial abuse. Others have sought to understand and appreciate kink practices that they had desired to explore but had previously been shamed for.
Psychosexual therapy aids the recovery of physical conditions of the body like erectile dysfunction, rapid or retarded ejaculation, vaginismus, dyspareunia, involuntary urination, hypo or hyper libido and many others.
Psychosexual therapy is a journey of developing, understanding, and reclaiming ownership of your sexual energy, sensual body, and sexual choices.
Through therapeutic inquiry & psychosexual education, you get to make sense of your sexual evolution. Once you have a fuller understanding of what you wish to achieve, we will develop a sensual and sexual pathway that's tailored specifically to your needs and desires.
Recovery from Sexual abuse and sexual violence is a common aim that brings clients to attend Psychosexual therapy. Unwanted sexual experiences can lead to traumatic triggers. These triggers can leave the survivors avoiding any sexually charged dynamic or, conversely, becoming overtly sexualised, resulting in feelings of shame.
I work sensitively with sexual abuse survivors and support the recovery of their sexual lives from complex trauma. This is achieved by providing safety and stabilisation resources throughout the sessions. These resources allow for the development of the sexual journey free from the unwanted triggers related to the trauma.
Early in my career, I spent two years working for a charity dedicated to counselling men and their partners to heal from and process unwanted sexual experiences and sexual abuse. Whilst those in a male body commit the vast majority of abuses, Women have predated 40% of men who present for trauma counselling. (Mankind counselling statistics) Unwanted experiences are a blight on our society, regardless of who predates whom.
A post-qualification addendum to training as a Psychosexual therapist drew me to pieces of training in Tantra & Taoist sexual philosophies, both contemporary and historical. Tantra and Taoist exercises deepen your connection to your body and a spiritual sense of self, and can enhance your intimate bond with your lover(s), partner, or beloved. These gifts can also aid the healing and reconnection with the life force known as Kundalini energy.
I offer resources and exercises for you to explore in the privacy of your own home, suitable for both individual and couple clients. A discussion on the exercises and the format is undertaken, and a consensual agreement is always sought. At no time will their be any nudity in our sessions, the exercises are for your personal learning and also for further dicsussion on any resistance levels that may arise.
Sexual and sensual experiences, when approached freely, can foster healing energy that alters neural pathways in the brain. Neural plasticity comes with the frequent challenging of old internalised paradigms that no longer afford you the sensual or sexualy empowered future that you may be seeking.
Clients seek out sex therapy or sex coaching for many reasons, including exploring, educating and making sense of their sexual desire(s) of BDSM/kink and fetish play.
Contact me: Email here or call/text 07478- 541- 231
Common presenting issues.
- Sexual and Emotional Boundaries
- Sexual/Sensual consent
- Sexual Violence/Abuse and Recovery
- Pleasure and Lack of Pleasure
- Asexuality, Greysexuality
- Internalised Transphobia, Homophobia, and Biphobia
- Suicidal ideation/ unwanted thoughts
- Communication skills and tools
- Erotomania
- Sensual education and re-education
- Understanding your Sexual diversity
- Shame & Desire
- Misuse of erotica/ Porn imagery and its effects
- Sex Addiction/ Out of control sexual behaviour
- Involuntary Celibacy
- Erectile dysfunction/ ED
- Premature or rapid ejaculation, whether primary/ secondary or Antiportal.
- Retarded ejaculation
- Vaginismus
- Vaginal dryness
- Anodyspareunia
- Pain during Intercours
- Infidelity
- Restrictive Sexual Behaviours
- Intimacy & regeneration
- Exploring the sexual space
- Sharing vulnerability
- Retroactive jealousy
- Kink, Fetish and Developing and developmental fantasies and fantasy play
- Sex toys: harm or enhance?
I work with clients regardless of gender identification, Sexual orientation, or relational status.
Sensual and Sexual Coaching
Sensual and sexual coaching is focused primarily on techniques to enhance your passions and desires. These techniques focus on expanding your toolbox of erotic games/desires and fantasies that are attuned to your senses and to support you to communicate these delicious discoveries to your partner(s)/lover(s).
This is a brief 6-session model that allows for a spring clean and tune-up for you and your relationship.
Personal Interests and Growth
I have spent many years attending workshops and talks, and gaining resources through Tantra, Taoist teachings, and the sex-positive community.
Exploring and expanding through gender dynamics has led me to attend both gendered and non-gendered groups to deepen my understanding of the concepts of the Mature Masculine and Mature Feminine within our souls. After all, we arrived on this earth as a result of both feminine and masculine ingredients, did we not?
These avant-garde resources support biological, physical, and energetic/spiritual growth, complementing the range of resources and exercises that clients have found to be effective in supporting change.
At all times, your boundaries and levels of consent are monitored and checked in with. I appreciate and understand people's levels of resistance when discussing topics of a sexual, traumatic or relational nature, and offer care and empathy in a supportive way.
Contact me: Email here or call/text 07478- 541- 231
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