Relationship and marriage counselling.
Nurturing Love, Restoring Connections
As a marriage guidance counsellor & relationship therapist with many years' experience, I will support you in challenging the aspects of your relationship that have brought you into conflict. My role is to provide a safe, non-judgmental space for you to explore your feelings and experiences, and to guide you in developing healthier ways of relating to one another.
Couples therapy is challenging work, but it is emotionally and financially cheaper than divorce or separation. It's advisable to explore all avenues as the pain and anguish, plus the cost to you and your children's mental health of a relationship ending, can be immeasurable—additionally, the financial impact of separation, home building or rehoming.
Couples counselling is not just about resolving conflicts; it's about equipping you with new skills that, over time, will become the building blocks for transforming your relationship.
Communication, both verbal and through the body (kissing, touch, sensual and sexual intimacy), is at the forefront of withdrawal when relationships are breaking down.
Other acts of aggression when the relationship is floundering include focusing on playing the 'blame game' and viewing the 'other' as the enemy. The 'silent' treatment, forced separation, berating, and sulkiness can lead to a place of reaction, rage, and counter-behaviours that constantly damage one's self-worth.
In some relational dynamics, there is a lack of anger as couples regress to brother-sister or best-friend roles. These types of dynamics come with ambiguity and avoidance, and slowly strangle any hope of a sexually fulfilling and enjoyable life together, as resentments bubble away in the background.
Many couples have felt the devastation of infidelity. Infidelity raises issues of trust, shame, and guilt and can leave one or both parties bereft, angry, and shamed or shame-full. Therapy is an opportunity to emote, understand and heal.
If your relationship exhibits any of these relational dynamics, I would suggest that you begin therapy as soon as possible; otherwise, the slow decay will bring the poison of indifference.
During the counselling sessions, we will look at how you connect with your partner. We collaborate on exercises to unearth deeper meanings in the to-and-fro of day-to-day interactions and to sift through whether past relationships and family-of-origin shadows have been affecting your current behaviours towards each other.
A healthy home, sex life, and playfulness depend on your willingness to make changes by invoking the four Cs: compassion, challenge, compromise, and communication. These principles form the foundation of our work together, guiding us in understanding and addressing the issues in your relationship.
It is your choice.
Contact me: Email here or call/text 07478- 541- 231
Couples seek support for varied reasons, including:
- Low sexual desire
- Communication
- Conflict resolution
- Sex addiction (Out of control sexual behaviour)
- Lack of intimacy
- power imbalance
- Jealousy
- Retroactive Jealousy
- Infidelity
- Family planning
- Sexual abuse
- Sexual violence
- Emotional and physical abuse
- Passive aggression
- Boundary and consent violations
- Relationship navigation into Swinging, polyamory and opening the relationship to others.
- Childcare and Parenting
- Psychosexual medical issues, i.e., erectile problematic behaviours, vaginismus, rapid or retarded ejaculation, retarded orgasm
- Sexual self-esteem
- Pre-cohabiting guidance
- Relationship contracting
- Sex and Sensuality
and many others
Sessions can be held weekly or fortnightly, depending on your needs and finances. However, weekly sessions are therapeutically more beneficial, as the relationship remains in focus. Additionally, if you cancel a session, fortnightly clients will not be seen for a month. There will be exercises and home tasks to help you to maintain focus and to support your emotional balance whilst navigating the therapeutic journey.
In some cases, couples attend counselling sessions seeking a structured ending to their relationship. They wish to navigate the transition into solo and separate lifestyles while developing a supportive co-parenting relationship with structured boundaries.
Contact me: Email here or call/text 07478- 541- 231
Relationship sex coaching
All relationships get stale and dull, right? But with a bit of spring cleaning, you can develop into a new, pleasure-filled partnership that meets both your needs.
Sensual and sexual coaching is focused primarily on techniques to enhance your bodily and emotional responses to each other. The focus may be around ejaculation control, vaginal numbness, or raising issues where you wish to expand or introduce new sensual or sexual games with your partner.
Throughout the sessions, we will focus on the likes and dislikes that affect your senses and explore any other hidden desires that have been left unvoiced. Together, we will develop a better understanding of you and your relationship and how to enhance your unfulfilled sexual life.
Sex coaching is a brief 6-session model that allows for a spring clean and tune-up for you and your relationship. It's designed to provide a focused, intensive period of work, allowing you to make significant progress in a time-limited fashion.
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